THE 2017 BET AWARDS NOMINATIONS.

The BET Awards is one of the biggest award shows of the summer, and there are always plenty of memorable moments that go down each year, and we’re pretty sure this year will be no different.

On Monday, the network announced the nominees for the 2017 BET Awards, showcasing some of the heavy hitters that have been holding it down inside and outside of music all year.

Leading with the most nominations is none other than Queen Bey, as she earns a total of seven nominations. Some of the categories she is nominated in include, “Best Female R&B/Pop Artist,” “Best Collaboration,” “Video of the Year,” and “Album of the Year.”

The BET award ceremony celebrates mass achievements in black entertainment and honors music, sports, television, and movies released between April 1, 2016 and March 31, 2017.

See the full list of nominees below:

 

Best International Act Africa 2017

 

WIZKID
TEKNO
DAVIDO
MR EAZI
AKA
BABES WODUMO
NASTY C
STONEBWOY

 

Best International Act Europe 2017 (New category)

 

BOOBA
CRAIG DAVID
EMELI SANDE
GIGGS
MHD
SKEPTA
STORMZY
WILEY

Best New Artist

YOUNG MA
KHALID
CHANCE THE RAPPER
CARDI B
21 SAVAGE SKULLS

Best Group

2CHAINZ AND LILTUNECHI
ATCQ
FAT JOE AND REMY MA
MIGOS
RAE SREMMURD

Best Female R&B/Pop Artist
BEYONCÉ
KEHLANI
MARY J. BLIGE
RIHANNA
SOLANGE

Best Male R&B/Pop Artist
BRUNO MARS
CHRIS BROWN
THE WEEKND
TREY SONGZ
USHER

Best Group
2 CHAINZ & LIL WAYNE
A TRIBE CALLED QUEST
FAT JOE & REMY MA
MIGOS
RAE SREMMURD

Best Collaboration
BEYONCÉ FT. KENDRICK LAMAR – FREEDOM
CHANCE THE RAPPER FT. 2 CHAINZ & LIL WAYNE – NO PROBLEM
CHRIS BROWN FT. GUCCI MANE & USHER – PARTY
DJ KHALED FT. BEYONCÉ & JAY Z – SHINING
MIGOS FT. LIL UZI VERT – BAD AND BOUJEE
RAE SREMMURD FT. GUCCI MANE – BLACK BEATLES

Best Male Hip-Hop Artist
BIG SEAN
CHANCE THE RAPPER
DRAKE
FUTURE
J. COLE
KENDRICK LAMAR

Best Female Hip-Hop Artist
CARDI B
MISSY ELLIOTT
NICKI MINAJ
REMY MA
YOUNG M.A.

 

Video of the Year
BEYONCÉ – SORRY
BIG SEAN – BOUNCE BACK
BRUNO MARS – 24K MAGIC
MIGOS FT. LIL UZI VERT – BAD AND BOUJEE
SOLANGE – CRANES IN THE SKY

 

Video Director of the Year
BENNY BOOM – KEHLANI “CRZY”
BRUNO MARS & JONATHAN LIA – BRUNO MARS “THAT’S WHAT I LIKE”
DIRECTOR X – ZAYN MALIK “LIKE I WOULD”
HYPE WILLIAMS – TYGA “GUCCI SNAKES FT. DESIIGNER”
KAHLIL JOSEPH & BEYONCÉ KNOWLES-CARTER – BEYONCÉ “SORRY”

 

Best New Artist
21 SAVAGE
CARDI B
CHANCE THE RAPPER
KHALID
YOUNG M.A.

 

Album of the Year
24K MAGIC – BRUNO MARS
4 YOUR EYEZ ONLY – J. COLE
A SEAT AT THE TABLE – SOLANGE
COLORING BOOK – CHANCE THE RAPPER
LEMONADE – BEYONCÉ

 

Dr. Bobby Jones Best Gospel/Inspirational Award
CECE WINANS – NEVER HAVE TO BE ALONE
FANTASIA FT. TYE TRIBBETT – I MADE IT
KIRK FRANKLIN FT. SARAH REEVES, TASHA COBBS & TAMELA MANN – MY WORLD NEEDS YOU
LECRAE – CAN’T STOP ME NOW (DESTINATION)
TAMELA MANN – GOD PROVIDES

 

Best Actress
GABRIELLE UNION
ISSA RAE
JANELLE MONÁE
TARAJI P. HENSON
VIOLA DAVIS

 

Best Actor
BRYSHERE Y. GRAY
DENZEL WASHINGTON
DONALD GLOVER
MAHERSHALA ALI
OMARI HARDWICK

 

YoungStars Award
ACE HUNTER
CALEB MCLAUGHLIN
JADEN SMITH
MARSAI MARTIN
YARA SHAHIDI

 

Best Movie
FENCES
GET OUT
HIDDEN FIGURES
MOONLIGHT
THE BIRTH OF A NATION

 

Sportswoman of the Year Award
GABBY DOUGLAS
SERENA WILLIAMS
SIMONE BILES
SKYLAR DIGGINS
VENUS WILLIAMS

 

Sportsman of the Year Award
CAM NEWTON
LEBRON JAMES
ODELL BECKHAM JR.
RUSSELL WESTBROOK
STEPHEN CURRY

 

Centric Award
FANTASIA – SLEEPING WITH THE ONE I LOVE
KEHLANI – DISTRACTION
MARY J. BLIGE – THICK OF IT
SOLANGE – CRANES IN THE SKY
SYD – ALL ABOUT ME
YUNA – CRUSH FT. USHER

 

Coca-Cola Viewers’ Choice Award
BEYONCÉ – SORRY
BRUNO MARS – 24K MAGIC
DRAKE – FAKE LOVE
MIGOS FT. LIL UZI VERT – BAD AND BOUJEE
RAE SREMMURD FT. GUCCI MANE – BLACK BEATLES
THE WEEKND FT. DAFT PUNK – STARBOY

Tupac Shakur’s 22 Best Songs

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Tupac Shakur left behind a massive catalog of songs. Narrowing Pac’s best to just 22 songs wasn’t an easy task. 2Pac managed to touch on every subject worth rapping about, from racial injustice to teen pregnancy. As a tribute to one of hip-hop’s greatest minds, here are 22 of 2Pac’s greatest songs.

 

#22. “2 of Amerikaz Most Wanted” (Ft. Snoop Dogg)

This is the song that blew the doors off the hinges of the epic Biggie-Tupac feud. Anointed as the new prince of the left coast, ‘Pac exhibited a new side of himself: a clever, young comrade of the gangsta rap movement of the mid-’90s, alongside Tha Doggfather. The dynamic duo spit murderous daggers at their East coast foes atop a smooth-as-silk party track. Homicide to bump in the ride. Only on the Westside. And ‘Pac helped put ’em back on the map! JM

 

#21. “Until the End of Time (RP Remix)”

An eponymous remix track, this “Broken Wings”-sampling Richard Page remix matched Tupac’s identity quite well. The beat grips the listener with its heavy bass, snares and urgent church bells as ‘Pac spills his soul over with grit and honesty, even from the song’s first bars: “Perhaps I was addicted to the dark side/ Somewhere inside my childhood witnessed my heart die.” JM

 

#20. “Changes”

Perhaps the most recognizable Tupac track of them all, “Changes” possessed the rare duality of being both a commercial success and a vessel of social upliftment. As ‘Pac would say, “some things will never change.” Indeed. Songs like “Changes” remain timeless to this very day. JM

 

#19. “Hit ‘Em Up” (Feat. Outlawz)

Vitriolic, spiteful, and outright inflammatory, Tupac elevated what was a bitter feud between former friends to outright warfare in this rapid-fire diss record aimed at Notorious B.I.G. Flanked by the marginally skilled ranks of the Outlawz, Pac unleashed private matters -– including an alleged affair with Biggie’s wife, Faith Evans -– for the world to see, giving hip-hop one of its most memorable and venomous tracks. IR

 

#18. “Lord Knows”

A heartfelt lamentation of the ills of black society, an angry and frustrated Shakur struggles to find hope in this cut off Me Against the World. Introspective and spiritual, this song is the expression of Pac at his most honest: conflicted, disillusioned, and desperately clinging to the hope of redemption. IR

 

#17. “Picture Me Rolling”

Funky production and guests Syke and CPO offer Tupac enough ammunition to propel an otherwise typical roll through the city block into an ambient portrait of street life. With his typical energy and lyricism, Pac provides a taunt to his critics and detractors, offering a triumphant statement of self in the face of adversity. IR

 

#16. “When Thugz Cry”

Self-pity is often reserved for teenage girls, but 2Pac turns it into a song about the persecution that induces black-on-black crime in the African-American community. HA

 

#15. “Life Goes On”

This gem from All Eyez On Me finds 2Pac nudging himself forward after losing some loved ones. “Life Goes On” is a bittersweet reminder that ‘Pac had a knack for displaying strength in the face of adversity. HA

 

#14. “I Wonder If Heaven’s Got a Ghetto”

Returning to his role as social rabble-rouser and plain-spoken prophet, 2Pac questions the failed institutions of the material world and wonders if the divine is more forgiving. Vulnerable yet assured, Pac doesn’t offer apologies, only hope in this earnest song. IR

 

#13. “Ambitionz as a Ridah”

The fierce opening track for All Eyez On Me, Pac’s most commercially successful album, sets the tone immediately; menacing, gruff, and uncompromising, this song serves as a haunting foreshadow of the violence and paranoia that would plague the rest of Tupac’s career. IR

 

#12. “California Love” (feat. Dr. Dre)

Though it sometimes gets overshadowed by the more emotive “To Live & Die in LA,” “California Love” is one of Tupac’s best known works. Dr. Dre’s piano-laden production frames the soundbed for a celebratory ode to Cali, while Roger Troutman’s vocoder-aided chorus adds some flavor to the mix. HA

 

#11. “Trapped”

“One day I’m gonna bust/ Blow up on this society/ Why did you lie to me?/ I couldn’t find a trace of equality!” As he proceeds to critique the so-called justice system and the prison complex, the tone in Tupac’s voice grows more and more urgent with each bar. ‘Pac finally lets out his aggravated tension in the last line: “I’d rather die than be trapped in a living hell/ They got me trapped!” JM

 

#10. “Old School”

With the name-dropping and homage that takes place in Pac’s name today, it’s easy to forget that he was once an up-and-comer. On “Old School,” Shakur gives a nod to everyone from MC Lyte, Big Daddy Kane, and Rakim to Melle Mel, Slick Rick, and Chuck D. for paving the way for aspiring hip-hop artists. IR

 

#9. “My Block”

(“Don’t cry through your despair /I wonder if the Lord still cares, for us n***as on welfare /And who cares if we survive /The only time they notice a n***a is when he’s clutching on a .45 /My neighborhood ain’t the same, /Cause all these little babies goin crazy and they suffering in the game.”) ‘Pac shouts out his ‘hood, while praying for better days. HA

 

#8. “Me Against the World”

This title track from the 1995 masterpiece, Me Against the World, is a perfect example of 2Pac’s eff-the-world, melodrama-inducing attitude. HA

 

#7. “Hail Mary”

Backed by a hazy cosmic soundtrack, 2Pac delivers a dose of vitriol on this standout track from 1996’s Makaveli. In 2003, Eminem, 50 Cent and Busta Rhymes famously summoned ‘Pac’s spirit as they re-imagined “Hail Mary” as a diss to Ja Rule and Irv Gotti. HA

 

#6. “So Many Tears”

Laid across the somber puffs of the harmonica solo from Stevie Wonder’s “That Girl,” “So Many Tears” finds Tupac pleading with God, renouncing past sins and his “mind full of demons.” ‘Pac recollects over the tears he’s shed on account of the lives he’s seen lost to violence. Truly one of his deepest and most personal moments.

 

#5. “Only God Can Judge Me”

2Pac and Rappin’ 4-Tay trade bars about imperfection on one hand and ponder afterlife on the other. Hear ‘Pac predict his own death: “I hear the doctor standing over me, screaming I can make it /Got a body full of bullet holes layin here naked /Still I, can’t breathe…” One of the standout moments on the critically acclaimed double album, All Eyez on MeHA

 

#4. “To Live & Die in L.A.”

From Venice Beach to the San Gabriel Valley and all the areas in between, Tupac loved the City of Angels and the city loved him. Sure, “California Love” was a great party track devoted to the Golden State, but “To Live & Die in L.A.” was an authentic gesture of homage — paid to his true adoptive home — where it “never rains in the sun.” The fact that it became one of his several swan songs further eternalized his name and never-ending presence in the city, even to this very day. JM

 

#3. “Brenda’s Got a Baby”

On his debut single from 1991’s 2Pacalypse Now, ‘Pac narrates the story of a 12-year old female who accidentally conceives and is incapable of raising her child. 17 years later, many rappers have kept this discussion alive by churning their own versions of the song (“Runaway Love,” “Lil Girl Gone”), but “Brenda’s Got a Baby” still reigns supreme. HA

 

#2. “Dear Mama”

“Dear Mama,” 2Pac’s ode to his mother Afeni Shakur, is pretty much the unofficial Mother’s Day hip-hop anthem. On this meticulously-crafted masterpiece, Shakur pats mama on the back for working tirelessly to put food on the table during the day and trying to liberate him from the perils of street life at night. HA

 

#1. “Keep Ya Head Up”

Perhaps the perfect showcase of the man’s softer side, “Keep Ya Head Up” is arguably his best individual performance ever. Over DJ Daryl’s rendition of Zapp & Roger’s “Be Alright,” Pac delivers a message about staying ahead of the struggle and showing respect to all, regardless of gender. (“Time to heal our women, be real to our women /And if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies /That will hate the ladies…”) HA

 

6 Sacrifices Facing Every Entrepreneur [Road to Start-up]

We all know that being an entrepreneur is tough and that it takes a mental, physical and emotional toll. We hear so many motivational speakers and experts throw around terms like “commitment”, “sacrifice” and “getting out of your comfort”. However, most new entrepreneurs continue to underestimate actually what the price of success can be and not be prepared to go all the way in paying in it.

I would argue that most businesses don’t actually fail due to lack of sales, capital or experience. They fail because the founders underestimated the price they would have to pay before achieving all of those things. By having a better idea from the start what price you will need to pay to reach a goal, you will be better prepared (especially mentally and emotionally) to face the challenges that you will inevitably face on your way to success.

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I’m not saying any of this in a negative or discouraging way here. I am the first person to encourage almost anybody to become an entrepreneur and do what it takes to succeed. I firmly believe we all have what it takes to achieve a degree of success if we skill up properly and prepare. Prepare for the roller coaster that is entrepreneurship and when you do hit those tough curves and highs and lows, you will know it’s coming and be ready to take it on. Here are some sacrifices that I think are more commonly underestimated. Keep in mind these aren’t absolute rules. There very well are people out there who have figured out how to have their cake and eat it too. But if you’re going to step into the ring of entrepreneurship, you need to be prepared to fight.

  1. Their social life.

At least in the early stages of launching your company, you can most likely kiss most of your social life goodbye. Friendships will suffer. The best ones will stay by you. But you have to realize that to overcome the massive odds against you when starting a company, it takes long hours, late nights and early mornings. This doesn’t always leave much time for hanging out or going to the club.

  1. Sleep.

If there’s one aspect of your life that will be impacted most by becoming an entrepreneur, it’s probably your sleep habits. Hopefully you don’t need a whole lot of sleep. If you do, learn how to get by on less. I sleep 5 hours a night and I have many successful friends who sleep even less than that. There are only 24 hours in a day so when you are putting 14+ hour days at the office, those hours need to come from somewhere.

  1. Mindless entertainment.

While it may be thrilling to watch the latest season of your favorite Netflix show or see that new movie at the theater that everyone on Facebook is talking about, it’s a far more valuable use of your time to be reading and listening to podcasts that improve your skills, raise your game and keep raising your standards for success. You only have 24 hours in a day, don’t waste them on consuming content that doesn’t help you grow.

  1. Their comfort zone.

Your comfort zone is a deadly place and should become your public enemy #1. Any time you are starting to feel comfortable, you are probably not growing fast enough. One good indicator of whether or not you are falling back into your comfort zone is looking at the problems you face. If you have no problems or the same problems, you are stuck. If you are constantly creating new problems for yourself, you’re growing, and that’s where you want to be. Don’t do what’s comfortable or reasonable. Karl Wallenda said, “Life is lived out on the wire. The rest is just waiting.”

  1. Sanity.

There will be many times when you feel like you are sacrificing your mental sanity. People will call you crazy, weird, insane and obsessed. Sometimes you’ll even question the risks you are taking. All I can say about this is a quote from George Bernard Shaw, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” Pull this quote out whenever you feel pressured to conform to what’s “reasonable”.

  1. Popularity.

This is tough for many founders, but leadership is not a popularity contest. As a leader, your responsibility is to make the decisions that are best for the long term success of the company and the team. This includes the tough decisions that nobody else wants to make or embrace. There will be many times when a tough decision makes you unpopular in the short term. This is part of the price of leadership and as an entrepreneur, you need to be comfortable with being unpopular sometimes.

 

Source: RICHARD LORENZEN

LL Cool J: 10 reasons we love the Grammys host

1. HE’S TRANSFORMED INTO AN ACTOR

Although he found fame as a rapper, LL Cool J has starred in “NCIS: Los Angeles” alongside former child star Chris O’Donnell since 2009. “He’s a character that believes in protecting his family, he believes in protecting his country,” LL told “CBS This Morning” about why he loves playing Special Agent Sam Hanna so much. “His way of life, he’s loyal, he has integrity, he puts his life on the line every day, to persevere and protect the freedoms of the innocent.” LL’s also appeared in major movies like “S.W.A.T.” and “Any Given Sunday” over the years.

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2. HIS MUSIC IS MAJOR

LL Cool J got his big break in Hollywood thanks to his catchy rap songs including hits like “Mama Said Knock You Out,” “Doin’ It,” “Rock the Bells” and many, many more. He was also the first rap artist to have 10 consecutive platinum-plus selling albums — a major feat in any genre. He even had a pretty epic collaboration with the one and only Jennifer Lopez on a song called “All I Have.” He’s also been nominated for nine Grammy Awards over the years and has won twice.

3. HE’S A FAMILY MAN!

LL Cool J has been married to Simone Smith since 1995. The couple have four kids together: Nina, Italia, Najee and Samaria — who range in age from 15 to 26. “The power of family has to outweigh a career,” LL Cool J told Good Housekeeping about the secret for keeping his family happy and together. “I make time for my kids,” he explained in another interview about being a hands-on dad. “I do the regular things that moms do. I run my house, I drive my kids to school.”

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4. HE ADORES HIS WIFE

Even after more than two decades of marriage, LL Cool J and Simone Smith are still head over heels in love with each other — which is a rarity in Hollywood! The couple met when they were teenagers living in New York and have remained together ever since. Over the years, LL’s been by Simone’s side as she battled cancer and launched a charitable jewelry line — and she’s had his back as he navigated his career and launched his own charity endeavors. They really are #relationshipgoals.

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5. HE’S AGELESS

LL Cool J just turned 48 in January 2016. But you’d hardly know it from looking at him! LL, tell us your secrets!

6. HE HOSTS “LIP SYNC BATTLE”

LL Cool J hosts the celebrity-favorite competition show “Lip Sync Battle” on Spike. It garnered the network’s highest-ever premiere ratings and has recently been renewed for a third season. We can’t get enough of this show!

7. HE WORKS OUT HARD … AND HE’S PROUD OF IT!

LL Cool J admits that he works hard for his physique. Some of his secrets? The rapper-actor works out four days a week with a trainer, mixes cardio with weights, eats healthy, sleeps about six hours a night and naps every single day. Maybe we should give that whole nap thing a try…
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8. HE’S CHARITABLE

Over the years, LL Cool J has lent his name and donated money to a lot of charitable groups that are doing good work. He’s worked closely with the Red Cross, Saint Vincent Meals on Wheels, Chrysalis and Jump and Ball, to name just a few. What a guy!

9. HE’S AN AUTHOR!

The jack of all trades has written four books. LL Cool J’s autobiography “I Make My Own Rules” was released in 1998. He then went on to write a children’s book, “And the Winner Is …” — he is a dad after all! — in 2002. A few years later, he co-wrote “LL Cool J (Hip-Hop Stars)” with a hip-hop historian. But that’s not all! The health-conscious actor also penned a fitness book in 2010: “LL Cool J’s Platinum 360 Diet and Lifestyle: A Full-Circle Guide to Developing Your Mind, Body, and Soul.” There’s something for everyone!

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10. HE PROTECTS HIS LOVED ONES!

In 2012, LL Cool J took down an intruder who entered his home while his family was sleeping. After hearing a commotion downstairs in the middle of the night, the rapper-actor went to investigate, found a burglar and beat him up — the man ended up with a broken nose and jaw — before the LAPD showed up. “He is committed to keeping his family safe and is cooperating with authorities,” LL’s rep told TMZ at the time.

Jane Seymour and more stars who look at least 10 years younger than their ages

Shockingly, Jane Seymour will be 65 on Feb. 15, 2016. In honor of the former Bond Girl’s big birthday, we’re taking a look at stars who could pass for 10 or 20 years younger than their actual ages. Take Dr. Quinn, for example: The erstwhile Medicine Woman barely aged in the decade between 2006 and 2016. Now keep reading for more!GT

Jennifer Lopez has clearly stumbled upon the fountain of youth. She’s 46 now but could easily pass for 36 — if not younger! That’s her at age 30 in 1999 on the left.

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Will Smith is almost 50?! He could still pass for 36, which he was in 2004.WS.jpg

Ralph Macchio is a freak of nature. He’s 54 now but has barely aged since 2007 — or since 1984 when he first starred in “The Karate Kid.”

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Wanna know why Pharrell Williams is so happy? It’s probably because he hasn’t aged a day since 2005. Can you believe he’s 42?

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If Gabrielle Union told us she was 29 — like she was in 2001 — we’d totally believe her. (She’s actually 43.)

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Enrique Iglesias said it best: He’s a freak! The Spanish singer is 40 but looks almost exactly the same as he did at age 30 in 2005.

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Lucy Liu has barely aged since 1991 when she was 31 years old. Now she’s 47 — and oh-so genetically blessed!

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Lucy Liu has barely aged since 1991 when she was 31 years old. Now she’s 47 — and oh-so genetically blessed!

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Seriously, HOW does she do it? “Clueless” star Stacey Dash will be 50 in 2016, but could easily pass for 35 — which she was in 2002 — or even younger!

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Paul Rudd was 37 in 2006. Can you believe that means he’s almost 50 now?!

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The ladies love Cool James because apparently, he’s a vampire. Rapper-actor LL Cool J is actually almost 50, but only looks a few years older than he did at age 23 in 1991.

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Wrap your head around this: Halle Berry will be 50 in August 2016. But she still looks 36, which happened to be her age in 2002.

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Lady Gaga ‘broke down’ in studio!

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The ‘Pokerface’ hitmaker – who was raped at 19-years-old – unveiled the song ‘Til It Happens to You,’ which she recorded for documentary ‘The Hunting Ground’, which explores rape on college campuses, but songwriter Diane Warren has revealed the 29-year-old found it incredibly hard to get through the full session.

Diane told PEOPLE magazine: “It was very emotional for her. She couldn’t even talk through it at times.

“I had heard she’d gone through this, so I knew she was the right artist. She broke down a few times. She was very emotional doing the song. She put her whole heart and soul into it.”

Meanwhile, the award-winning singer previously admitted she didn’t tell anybody about the incident for a long time and instead turned to drinking to try and blank it from her memory.

She explained: “I don’t know what I was thinking. I didn’t tell anybody. And I didn’t even tell myself for the longest time.

“And then I was like, ‘You know what? All this drinking and all this nonsense, you have to go to the source, otherwise it just won’t go away. It will not go away.”

Woman faces six years in jail for not being a better wife.

The husband says that his wife never cooks or cleans and as a result he doesn’t feel loved or taken care of and somehow this is criminal. Apparently this qualifies as “mistreatment of family” and is punishable by jail.

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Assuming this is true and not some kind of hoax, the whole thing seems rather absurd. It is hard to imagine a marriage in which an unhappy man wouldn’t just talk to his wife and, I don’t know, pitch in if she is overwhelmed once in a while. When I hear a story like this, I wonder if she is overwhelmed or depressed or suffering from some kind of mental issue that makes it difficult to function. Meanwhile, this guy just feels badly for himself. Nice guy.

And while most of us are not living in rural and traditional Italy, certainly the idea of the “good wife” is pervasive all over the world and still, despite so many years of progress and work, involves keeping a nice house, cooking, and making sure the children are well-fed and perfectly coiffed. Anything less than that will earn you some looks in the carpool line. Even in suburban New Jersey, just a few miles outside on New York City, I know I have been judged for not being more focused on my home and our children’s appearance.

It’s just not my thing. And I don’t feel badly about that. Other than the once a week cleaning we get from the person we hire to clean our house, our house is rarely cleaned. Sure, we do the dishes and wipe down the counters and make the beds, but the operative word is “we.” The upkeep of our home is both of our responsibility. We have three kids and very busy schedules. My husband doesn’t get to take a pass because he’s a man.

We need to get past the idea that keeping the house is always the woman’s job. Quite frankly, most women have better things to do with their time and if men have an issue with that, they can step up, too. That’s what a marriage is.